Your Husband is Your Priority NOT Your Friends.

In the first years of my marriage, I learned a lot about friendships. One of the things I learned is all the people that said they were my friends were not my friends once I got married. After I said “I Do”, most of my friendships went down the drain. Some I forfeited, others became distant, and others were up to no good and wanted to see me fail. I went through some trials and found out I actually did have haters, learned a lot about the people around me. At one point I even isolated myself from everyone because I lost trust in everyone around me including people who have been in my life for decades. Yes, DECADES, not just a few years but 20+ year friendships. I had to really pray about it. Like deep in prayer about people. With losing so many friends at once, I closed myself off to new relationships. I had it in my head that I would be ok without friends. Lies of the enemy. I finally realized that I did need friends. But I wanted real friends sent from God, that understood that my husband and kids were my priority. God allowed me to keep my best friend, taught me to keep some people at arms distance, gave me discernment, returned to some friends who were also married and on the same journey as me of being a wife and mother, then he blessed me with like-minded couples to be around. I am thankful for His Grace.

Here are some things I didn’t know when I got married

1. Your husband comes first above everyone even our children.

2. Being married takes a lot of work.

3. All single friends are not bad. But pray about the ones you allow around you and your husband.

4. All married couples are not good examples.

5. Prayer is a requirement.

6. Giving in marriage is different from dating, your giving is unlimited.

7. Your spouse is your best teacher, so pay attention and take notes.

8. It is ok to let go of relationships that might hinder or harm your marriage.

9. Take time for you, your husband, you’re kids, and everyone else. Balance your time by scheduling.

10. If your husband should be your safe place and if he isn’t, communicate to him what you need.